Does love distract you from your goals?

When falling in love with someone, most people actually go into the relationship with very high hopes of it working out completely with you and the other person falling in love forever and getting married to live a long, happy life together. But I don't think people understand that you can't go into a, hopefully long-lasting, relationship blinded by all of the love and forget about everything else happening around you. 

This plays into the question, "Is love a distraction from your goals." This question is a very debatable topic that has been around for a long time with many people wondering if it does. Yes, you can go into a relationship with the thought that you and your spouse are in love and that he/she is fun but you can't forget about keeping the serious driven, focused and talented respect that you had. Relationships have their own goals but you can't forget about your own personal goals while keeping up with your relationship goals. A relationship is all about dedication, friendship, loyalty, genuine affection, and also respect. This requires dedication from both sides of the relationship to keep both of your morals together and intact to be successful in the long run. 

As I said, this is a very debatable topic and I am on the agree side when it comes to the topic. The disagree side states that whenever you are blindsided by love you lose all focus and morals that you previously had to focus all on that relationship and that alone. Personally, I think that this is the wrong way to look at the topic. Sure there are people that drop everything for love but most people fall in love and keep that same focus and dedication that they had before and apply it to the relationship for both sides to progress together while dating or while being married. To keep this level of dedication to grow with each other you have to understand that you have to grow together. There is no in-between or one side is greater than the other, both sides have to put in the work to grow together instead of one person putting in all the work. 

If you've ever been in a relationship then you have heard of a "Power Couple". This simply means that both people are very successful and influential in their own terms but come together to create, in theory, a power couple. This can be proven by the quote

  "Power couple vision demands a high level of dedication and discipline. It’s not just a commitment to not cheat or to love and cherish. It’s a commitment to the team and staying true to yourself and your dreams while rooting for your significant other." 

This supports what I have stated by proving that you have to root for each other rather than one person only rooting for the other. 

But, with this being said, you can't forget about yourself while rooting/pushing for the other person. Yes, you both are in this together but you can not forget about yourself and your goals for the relationship, school, or even life in general. In conclusion, I do not think that falling in love and forming a working relationship ultimately distracts you from your personal goals or morals. 

Intosh, Karel Mc. “Are Relationships a Distraction from Achieving Your Dreams?” Outlish Magazine, 6 Apr. 2012, http://www.outlish.com/are-relationships-a-distraction-from-achieving-your-dreams/.

Stevens, Michael. “How To Not Let Your Relationship Distract You From Your Goals.” VIX, VIX, 31 Jan. 2019, https://www.vix.com/en/relationships/528046/how-not-let-your-relationship-distract-you-your-goals.